Thursday, April 12, 2012

- Take Seventy Five : Lifetime wounds ( Not as emo as it sounds)

            There is no denying that ‘ Actions speak louder than words’. They do, but I remember reading this essay in one of my literature classes where the writer had argued how words hurt more than actions.And I completely agree with him.
                                If you hurt someone physically or someone hurts YOU physically, of course, you’d feel the pain, but there are ways you can get rid of that hurt. You can take medicines, maybe even apply some weird-smelling cream on your wound or God forbid if the injury is severe you might even get it operated on. What I’m trying to say is that, you can do something about it.
                       But when somebody hurts you with words, I really don’t think there is any medicine out there or any surgery to save you. No matter how much you deny it, no matter how much you act as if somebody’s mean words didn’t hurt you at all, they always do. And there’s no remedy for it. You may forget it for the time being, but sometime or the other, they do come back to you.
                     Bruises left by hurtful words are never healed. No amount of time can do the healing either. So next time, before you lash out on someone, do think if they are actually worth the life-time wound.  Be sure to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ and you might get the notoriously famous reply ‘ dosti mey koi please aur thank you naie hota’  but really, houna chaiyay. Acknowledging somebody’s efforts goes a long, long way.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

- Take Seventy Four: Tsk, tsk, tsk.

                As much as bad grammar puts me off, there are several other things or rather ‘habits’ which put me way off. And I decided that I should officially make a list and see if other people also find them annoying or am I the only crazy one here.

STOPIT#1 : Inconsistency. Inconsistency of opinions, of attitudes, of behaviors. I mean, why is it so hard for people to stick to what they say? Or what they don’t say? Sure, we get influenced by a number of things and we may change the way we have been thinking about something, but OH MY GOD do some people change their colors FAAAST.  They say one thing today and will be saying something completely opposite tomorrow.

Word of Advice : STOPIT. Grow up and learn to be a little more steadfast in your views. If you won’t respect your own thoughts and go on changing them this very often, chances are you’d be diagnosed as a bi-polar patient and will be left all alone.

STOPIT#2 : Cheesy-Janu-Manu-Tum-Meri-Zindagi-Ho type attitude. Na toh mjhay apki zindagi bana hey, na apki ankhou ka tara. UFF. I just cannot tolerate such cheesyness man. It’s one thing to be into someone and a completely different thing to compare them to ‘dew-drops-on-roses’. Ewo. Some girls may find it cute, but not me. No, sir.
Word of Advice: If you are so in love, there are a million other things you can say to your ‘beloved’ which would not make her feel awkward. I never really understood why anyone would want to be compared
to a moon, or for Shakespeare’s sake, to a SUMMER’S DAY?  I wouldn’t. I’d rather fancy if you would not compare me to anything or anybody at all. Period.

STOPIT#3: Bad manners. Oh. My. God. Some people just don’t know how to act in public. Even if you look like Brad Pitt and chew food with your mouth open or wipe your nose with your sleeve… I don’t even want to talk about this, IT IS THAT ANNOYING.

Word of Advice: Everybody loves a well mannered person. You can have a burping competition in the privacy of your own house, in your own room, with another manner less sibling or friend but not around other people. It is just not acceptable.

STOPIT#4 : It’s one thing to be fun and lively and energetic and it’s a completely different thing to be just plain OBNOXIOUS. We all know that one person who tries way too hard to be heard.

Word of Advice: Take a deep breath and just…shut. Up. Kthanks.

STOPIT#5:  People who pretend that they are-too-cool-for-reading. They’d much rather listen or WATCH Ali Zafar, since he has been doing quite some interesting things, in some of his *ahem* movies *ahem*. And they blame only Veena. Not fair, world, not fair.

Word of Advice: Please read. Be informed. Reading is for super awesome people. (*-*) I’m sure Ali Zafar reads too. When he’s not busy…uhh well okay just forget it. 

STOPIT#6:  And in this category I’ll put up all sorts of liars and cheaters and hypocrites and you know, the works. We all hate them. In the past, I too have lied about a few things, mostly to avoid conflicts and arguments and I know it is NO excuse and of course, it has always landed me into trouble. But now I try to keep it real and straightforward as much as possible even though it has successfully earned me the title of being ‘mean’ and ‘blunt’ and ‘insensitive’ but hey it’s okay. AT LEAST I’M NOT LYING ANYMORE.

Word of Advice:  As clich├ęd as it sounds, honesty really is the best policy.